South of Forgiveness

By Thordis Elva & Tom Stranger


"A profoundly moving, open chested, and critical book. An exploration into sexual violence and self-knowledge that can only shine a healing light into the shrouded corners of our universal humanity. There is a disarming power in these pages that has the potential to change our language, shift our divisions, and invite us to be brave in discussing this pressing, global issue." 

– Pat Mitchell, former head of the PBS and current chair of the Sundance Institute

"Every man, woman and couple should read this book. And the woman and man that wrote it ought to be garlanded with medals. It’s an unprecedented achievement." 

– Sandi Toksvig, comedian and TV presenter

"A book that confronts the stigma of victim and perpetrator, a nuanced path through the minefield of sexual violence, how to confront and speak about these issues is one of the greatest challenges of our time."

– Andri Snaer Magnason, author and Presidential candidate

"Written with sensitivity, courage and compassion, this book is a shared, outer and inner journey of recovery. In this intimate account of that journey, the story draws attention to one of the most overlooked perspectives regarding the act and meaning of rape: the shame of rape, harboured by the victim, belongs in fact to the perpetrator. Without any leanings toward self-indulgence, it is a deeply honest exploration of the dynamics of forgiveness and personal transformation. I felt as if I was with them (and their loved ones) on their journey. I will remember it and recommend it for a long time to come." 

– Ian McCallum, psychiatrist, environmentalist, writer and poet

"An incredible achievement. Everyone could benefit from reading this book. I’m certainly richer as a result of having done so.

– Arni Arnason, bassist in The Vaccines


Released Internationally

South of Forgiveness has been translated into numerous languages and is selling in Iceland, Germany, Poland, Sweden, Japan, South Korea, Denmark, USA, UK, Taiwan and Australia. 



Thordis Elva

Thordis Elva

Tom Stranger

Tom Stranger